Episode 8 - Managing the madness
Hosted by Yunus Skeete with guest speakers Ilham Said and Patrick Sullivan.
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Episode 8
Discusses the feeling of being more busy, more stressed and having less time. Despite this being an indication of us being overwhelmed, we still focus on squeezing more out of our days. From setting boundaries to emotional regulation, we look at how we can better manage the emotional and physical strain we place upon ourselves.
"Time, the potential to get things done? " - We often adopt incredibly selfless attitudes towards time which leave us constantly scrambling to get things done on other people's schedules. Surely the focus of our time should be on adding value to ourselves?
"What is on your time is on your mind " - Our emotional and physical energy is invested on the things we spend our time on. A visualisation of how little we focus on ourselves comes from our calendars; how many of our events are self-focussed?
"What is on your mind should also be on your time " - With pressing responsibilities and a rigid calendar, we often have to block out our lingering thoughts to get everything done. The pathways for emotional expression need to be pathed, open and well-travelled. As inappropriate as it may seem, sometimes the time for that is now.
"Pressure - what gets things done " - Loading up that task-list is often treated as inconsequential, especially if it is the tasks we don't mind doing. What seldom changes though is that the pressure we put on ourselves is what drives us to strike those tasks of, and this has a cumulative effect. Whether we enjoy it or not, the reminder that more output correlates to more pressure still stands. We need to assess the extent to which we heed it.
"Procrastination is an emotional regulation problem" - We are too quick to assume that it is more discipline, more time management or a better workflow system that allows us to keep on top of our task lists. More often than not, our efforts would be better placed focussing on managing our emotions rather than our time, it is they (our emotions) which keeps us going.
"Often, we don't burn out because we have too many things to do, we burn out because we forget why we do them" - A lot of us have our pull, but what is our push. Once we have a why, we can bear almost any how.
"Once you have put the work in and set your boundaries, you can tread that water forever" - If we don't set our boundaries and enforce a manner in which we are comfortable to be treated, we invite people to walk all over us. The same applies to our workload; it is on us to decide when we stop and take a break because our task list certainly won't.
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