Knowing who we are is a game of emotional literacy. Observing how we feel, and hence think, in response to our unfolding story is key to this self-awareness. Fulfilment is the knowledge of why we turn up, why we keep going, and what we bring to ourselves and others. It is internal validation, licencing ourselves to be wholly content with our past, our present, and our future. Finally, fitting relations find us when we send the right, consistent honing signal. This signalling is a matter of articulacy - the better we can convey, the better we can connect.